In The Matrix, the main character (Neo) meets The Oracle and walks under a sign that reads Temet Nosce, Latin for ‘Know Thyself’. The suggestion is that only by getting clear on who you are and owning it—constantly exploring, reflecting and knowing that your inner belief and knowledge is what others will see— will you keep growing.

Truth be told, undertaking any meaningful endeavour—launching a brand, building a new product offering, taking on a new leadership position and influencing more —requires you to be at your best.  We can’t influence or bring out the best in others until we lead ourselves first. There are four laws to live and lead by if we want to be our brilliant selves and influence more.

Be You: Own your spotlight

Influence starts with you courageously owning all the facets that make you, you – your strengths, weaknesses, awesome bits and even those not so great jiggly bits – and giving yourself permission to lead from this space. Your consistency, passion and conviction in yourself become infectious. And as others see the real you, the multiplier effect of your impact kicks in. Influence starts with you.

Be Ready: Harness your energy

Being exhausted isn’t leadership or positively influencing others. Become masterful at taking back control, thriving energetically, kicking excuses to the kerb, ensuring that you’re doing all you can to be the best version of yourself mentally, physically and spiritually every day. Say ‘No’ more to protect your boundaries and thriving habits.

Be Together: Connect with intent 

Togetherness, engaging in the right way, surrounding yourself with the right network of people and collaborating effectively to mutual benefit can be, and is, the only thing that will drive change and influence. Join forces with others, utilise collective skills and experience, build connected teams and cultures, and from a place of full disclosure and confidence, share insights, perspectives and thoughts openly to drive innovation and ideation.

Be Heard: Magnify your influence

You have nothing to hide, nothing to lose and nothing to prove. Stop hiding. Let us see you. We’re searching for leaders we want to follow; who have the strength to lead and share, to speak up and speak out, to learn and grow; who are capable of amplifying others to become their best selves too.  Be brave and give yourself permission to be you; to embrace your uniqueness and bring all of you to how you lead yourself. Be brilliant and step up into the leader you want to be, and by doing so, give permission to others to do the same.

Without people being who they truly are, being their brilliant selves, we’ll never create the true heart and soul, the belonging that’s needed to turn the challenges of our present into the successes of our future. When we reconnect and reclaim who we are in the entirety of our lived experience, imperfections and strengths, and when we stop faking it till we make it, we’ll be in a position to unleash our individual brilliance, and at the same time unleash the brilliance in others

Influence is not a result of one action.  It’s the practice of many.  The culmination of these many individual, separate personal efforts over time will allow you to have the impact and influence you want in your life, your work, your business and with others.


Janine Garner is the author of Be Brilliant – how to lead a life of influence (Wiley) and is a global thought leader on powerful networking, collaboration and transformational leadership. A highly sought-after keynote speaker, educator and best-selling author, Janine works with high-profile global leaders, and helps many of Australia’s top 50 ASX companies and multinationals. Visit